Is your life/family being hurt by the digital age we live in?
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I read this blog entry by Dr. Al Mohler (Southern Seminary President) this morning and wanted to share it with you. To be honest I was very convicted by it as I am a bit of an addict when it comes to e-mail, my iphone and technology. Dr. Mohler shares some profound concerns in what follows which each of us needs to seriously consider for our own lives and if we have a family we should ask how this is impacting and perhaps shaping and even hurting our relationships.
Parents, we must also ask how close these concerns could be to defining our children and perhaps setting them on a path which will result in long-term damage.
I am not throwing out my iphone, my laptop or my love of technology but I am looking at how I can turn it off more regularly so it does not control me. God has already begun to work on me in this area as I realized in April that I was expecting our church staff to respond to my texts or e-mails 24x7. So at a staff meeting in May I told all of them that after business hours if I needed something from them I would call them but they should feel free to ignore my e-mails/texts (and each others) until business hours. I was convicted that I had been intruding in their family time unnecessarily.
I bought my iphone (with my wife's permission:)) to help me keep connected as all our work e-mails, calendars, and documents are available via a web server and I love the convenience and speed of it but I must ensure I use it rather than being used and controlled by technology. Plus an iphone is as close as I will ever get to cool so I really don't want to get rid of it:)
Please read what follows and prayerfully consider if your use of technology is advancing or hindering your walk with Christ and with others.
Norm
The following is copied from -
http://www.albertmohler.com/2010/06/17/meet-the-new-american-family-digitally-deluged/
Meet the New American Family, Digitally Deluged
Thursday, June 17, 2010

The Campbell family of California
just might be the prototypical American family of the future. Kord
Campbell and his wife, Brenda, recently moved to the the San Francisco
area from Oklahoma, along with their two children, Lily, age 8, and
Connor, age 16. They also came with plenty of digital technology — and
they have acquired more.
The family is profiled by Matt Richtel in an article in the June 7,
2010 edition of The New York Times. As Richtel explains, the Campbells
might not be just any other family in the neighborhood with respect to
their digital habits. Then again, they might be, after all. At the very
least, they probably point to a new family reality that will become all
the more common.
Kord Campbell is starting a software venture. And yet, his life is so
filled with e-mails, text messages, chats, Web pages, and video games
that he missed a crucial e-mail from a company wanting to buy his
business — for 12 days. In Richtel’s word, Campbell is struggling with a
“deluge of data.” More alarming than that, his family is drowning in
the deluge as well.
As Richtel reports: “Even after he unplugs, he craves the
stimulation he gets from his electronic gadgets. He forgets things like
dinner plans, and he has trouble focusing on his family.”
“This is your brain on computers,” Richtel asserts.
Scientists are beginning to document the effects of digital exposure
on the brain. They are finding that everything from phone calls
(remember those?) to e-mail and text messages exacts a toll on the
brain’s ability to concentrate and focus. Furthermore, they have
identified a physiological reward for digital stimulation — a “dopamine
squirt.” That little squirt of dopamine in the brain serves as a
physiological pay-off for digital stimulation, and it can be
habit-forming.
It is for Kord Campbell. This husband and father admits to being
often unable to focus on his wife and children and their family life.
He goes to sleep with a laptop or similar device on his chest. When he
awakens, he goes directly online, where he remains throughout the day.
During family time, he often retreats into his digital world. He has
left family outings to play video games and check his digital gadgets.
Brenda laments, “It seems like he can no longer be fully in the moment.”
When he tries to unplug, he becomes “crotchety until he gets his fix.”
And yet, rather than attempt a move out of such digital dependence,
Mr. Campbell seems to be drawing his family members into the digital
net. Brenda checks e-mail about 25 times a day, sends and received text
messages, and is getting more involved on Facebook. Connor, age 16, is
becoming so involved in the digital world that his grades are slipping.
Lily, age 8, has only one hour of unstructured time each day, and she
often devotes that hour to digital devices. Connor apparently has a
computer with Internet access in his bedroom, along with his iPhone.
When he studies, an inner voice seems to call out to him to move instead
to a digital distraction.
The Campbells may be atypical in the extent of their digital
entanglements, but new research indicates that they are probably not as
atypical as we would hope. Richtel reports that Americans in 2008
consumed three times more daily information than in 1960. Those who use
computers at work change windows or screens an average of 37 times an
hour.
The change in human experience is so vast that Adam Gazzaley of the
University of California, San Francisco, names it one of the most
significant shifts ever experienced in the history of humanity — and one
with inevitable consequences.
What about multitasking? Many people claim that exposure to digital
technologies prompts the development of a new mental skill, managing
multiple mental tasks. As it turns out, multitasking seems to be more of
an illusion than a reality. Richtel reports that brain researcher Eyal
Ophir of Stanford University has found that multitasking actually takes
quite a toll on the brain’s ability to concentrate on anything.
Furthermore, research also suggests that multitaskers have a very
difficult time turning that mode of thinking off — a fact that goes a
long way toward explaining why some people cannot handle real-life
face-to-face conversations.
In an accompanying article in The New York Times, Tara
Parker Pope asked a chilling but revealing question: “Has the high-speed
Internet made you impatient with slow-speed children?” Does that
question not arrest you on the spot?
The research indicates that people who are highly invested in digital
involvements are less empathetic, less attentive, less patient, and
less able to remember something as basic as a conversation.
Just imagine what all this means. While the average American is
likely to express some measure of concern in light of this research, and
while most families no doubt seek a life different than that described
of the Campbells, Christians have to look at this picture with a very
different and far deeper set of concerns.
Is that what we were created to be? Is this the purpose for when God
created humanity? The Creator made us in his image, and thus to be
relational beings. But this relationality is intended to be expressed
first and foremost in relationships with human beings, and certainly not
with machines. A biblical understanding will also press us to identify
the relationships of our greatest accountability — the relationships of
marriage, family, kinship, and congregation — as well as the
relationships of greatest Gospel opportunity. When these relationships
suffer due to digital distractions, we bear full moral responsibility.
The answer is not to throw away all the digital gadgets. The
information revolution is here to stay, and it comes with great gifts as
well as tremendous temptations. Christians are not called to be
modern-day Luddites, smashing digital devices with sledgehammers. But we
are called to be faithful stewards of digital opportunities, even as we
are also called to be faithful in all our relationships. That second
stewardship is surely of greater importance than the first.
This stewardship will require clear boundaries, honest
self-knowledge, and authentic accountability. Otherwise, you may well
end up spending more time with your digital devices than with the people
you love. Count on this . . . they will notice.